Dating
What to look for in a companion? “A deep love of the Lord and of His commandments, a determination to live them, one that is kindly, understanding, forgiving of others, and willing to give of self, with the desire to have a family crowned with beautiful children and a commitment to teach them the principles of truth in the home.”1
Defined
Dating: Not just hanging out. It includes activities that help you to get to know each other.
Not just hanging out
“Simple and more frequent dates allow both men and women to ‘shop around’ in a way that allows extensive evaluation of the prospects. The old-fashioned date was a wonderful way to get acquainted with a member of the opposite sex. It encouraged conversation. It allowed you to see how you treat others and how you are treated in a one-on-one situation. It gave opportunities to learn how to initiate and sustain a mature relationship. None of that happens in hanging out.”2
Encourage simple dates.
Be equally yoked
“Life is to be lived well in whatever circumstances we find ourselves. There should not be a waiting period. Live richly, fully, and joyfully. Live with purpose each day.”3
Write down the qualities you want in your future spouse and apply those same qualities in your life.
Not a one and only
“Soulmates are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.”1
Guidelines
· Be careful
· Go on wholesome dates
· Go on good dates with good environments
1 Dollahite, D. (2000). Strengthening Our Families: An in-depth look at the proclamation of the family. Salt Lake City, UT.
2 Oaks, D.H. (2006). Dating versus Hanging Out. Ensign.
3Ashton, M.J. (2010). Becoming a Quality Person Now. Ensign.
